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The Best Appropriate Cool Bat Mitzvah Gifts

Have you been invited to a bat mitzvah, and want recommendations for a bat mitzvah gift? One the lucky girl will really love? This is our guide to what bat mitzvah is all about, and our picks for the coolest presents. Check out our guide for bar mitzvah gifts too!

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What is a Bat Mitzvah?

Bat mitzvah is a "coming of age" for Jewish girls. At age 12, they are now considered old enough to take on the responsibility of observing the Jewish laws. For example, girls following the Jewish tradition will now fast on Yom Kippur, and lead the blessings in the home. In most non-Orthodox communities the girls will participate in a public religious ceremony and read from the Torah. This ceremony is what most people refer to as the bat mitzvah and it usually takes place when the girl is 12 or 13.

The bat mitzvah girl will be called to the bimah (the "stage" of the temple) and perform the blessings and read from the Torah. She may read or even chant the entire Torah portion. This is no small task! Girls study for years for a bat mitzvah ceremony. 

Best Appropriate Bat Mitzvah Gifts

Cool Bat Mitzvah GiftsA bat mitzvah is a monumental landmark in the Jewish life-cycle, why not let your gift add to the meaningfulness of the occasion? (These bat mitzvah gift suggestions are in no particular order. With any one of these, you can't go wrong.)



Jewish Jewelry
 A Hebrew Initial Necklace, Star of David Necklace or Hamsa Bracelet is always appropriate. Consider jewelry with a different Judaic theme too. Pomegranates are a popular design motif like this Pomegranate Necklace. They symbolize integrity, equity, and justice because it is lore that there are 613 seeds inside the fruit, the same number of mitzvot (good deeds) commanded in the Torah. The Tree of Life and Evil Eye (to ward off evil) are other popular symbols. Shop all Jewish jewelry!

Donate to Charity. For all Jewish life-cycle events, a donation is appropriate. Giving tzedakah (charity) is central to the Jewish faith and the Commandment to bring justice to the world. (A tzedakah box, to hold money for charity, makes a great gift as well!) It's best to choose an organization that fits the girl's interest. Most girls having a bat mitzvah have a charitable project they work on. The Mitzvah Bowl is the go-to choice nationwide for most families when searching for a meaningful and unique bar/bat mitzvah project. 

Plant a Tree in Israel. Israel was mostly desert and marshland when independence was declared in 1948. Planting trees has been critical to creating inhabitable land. The Jewish National Fund is the charity that heads the effort and planting a tree in the bat mitzvah girl's name is as easy as going to the JNF website. You can even get a beautiful certificate to give her.

A favorite Jewish Recipe. Share your go-to recipe for kugel or latkes. Not a cook? Browse blogs like What Jew Wanna Eat or share a cookbook like Sweet Noshings by ModernTribe owner Amy Kritzer!

Orna Lalo CandlesticksShabbat Candlesticks. Did you know that it is the woman's role to light the Shabbat candles and lead the blessing over the candles that mark the start of every Jewish holiday? A pair of candlesticks that fit her taste and style would make a wonderful gift. A family can have more than one set of candlesticks so you don't have to worry about duplicating someone's gift. Just make sure it's a pair of the same height.

Public Prayer Items: Tallis, a Yad, or a Mezuzah. A bat mitzvah girl may get her first tallis (prayer shawl) to wear during her first Aliyah (calling up to the Torah). A well made tallis is made of wool or silk and would be a special gift from a parent, grandparent or close family friend. Like the candlesticks, a person can have more than one tallis, so if you've found the perfect one for her, don't worry about her receiving more than one. 

Art. Hamsa charms to hang on the wall, papercuts, and other Jewish inspired art make great gifts. 

Money/Bonds in increments of 18. If you want to let the bat mitzvah girl choose something for herself (or save for college), money may be the answer. Make it more meaningful by giving in increments of 18. 18 is the number associated with the word chai, Hebrew for life. A gift card works also!

P. S. -- Bring your gift to the party -- not to the ceremony Saturday morning.

Links To Learn More About Bat Mitzvah

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I looked at this page a week or two ago and there was a link to a charity providing books to kids, which was a suggestion for a Bat Mitzvah tzedaka donation. I was looking for the link today to make a donation in honor of a friend’s bat mitzvah, and the book charity link seems to have disappeared – was there something wrong with it? Please let me know, thanks, Joanne

Posted by Joanne on October 20, 2016

I have woven tallit for the two daughters of our best friends here; they’re like family, and the girls are our “nieces”. I also wove the fabric for and sewed kippahs and bags that match their tallit. It was a honor to be able to give them such special gifts, and they helped plan them so they turned out just like the girls wanted.

Posted by Rebecca on September 08, 2016

Thanks for the suggestions! She’s a good friend’s daughter I’ve known her whole life and really want to knock the gift out of the park!!

Posted by Gina Feazelle on June 24, 2016

Can you tell me where I might find the necklace you used on your site labeled AHAVA necklace and what the letters symbolize. Ty.

Posted by Jodi Holmes on February 19, 2016

My daughter received the most beautiful and unique gift at her Bat Mitzvah a couple months ago! A guest of ours had a fine art portrait painter, paint my daughter. It was beautiful! The artists name is Laurel Stern Boeck, I visited her website ( and saw she paints very formal prestigous paintings but on the side does paintings for children in their coming to age ceremonies/celebrations! The Artist made a post card with my daughters portrait on it to! It was such a breath taking gift. We will forever cherish it! What a wonderful and brilliant gift idea opposed to the cliche gift card or cash!

Posted by Elizabeth on July 23, 2014

Don’t forget to do your part and donate to Jewish Charities at

Posted by Eric Cook on February 25, 2008

hi jennie,

great ideas. always hard to find the right thing! i do take a bit of exception with what you wrote about how with “any one of these, you can’t go wrong.”

i work in the field of tzedakah and philanthropy, and i want to point out that giving wisely is better than just giving.

just as with most things in the world, tzedakah is best done when it is done efficiently and effectively. that is, with low overheads and with a high percentage (at least 85%) going towards program (and NOT towards salaries, fundraising, admin, etc.).

i am happy to discuss this further, at length. it is oh so important…

arnie draiman
philanthropic consultant

Posted by arnie draiman on February 25, 2008

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